This is not a complaint, if I could trade the time I have with my girls for the fun things their dad gets to do with them I would not. I get to wake up with them Monday thru Friday every single day of the year. I get to put them to bed Sunday through Thursday every single day of the year. I get to wake up with them 25 weekends a year. On the other 25 weekends I get a break and I get some time to myself. That being said, it's hard. My ex doesn't pay child support for my son and he's supposed to pay 26% of his income for the girls. I can securely tell you that 95% of my income goes to my kids. I can't imagine that it will change before they are out of school. So I don't get to do fun things with them very often. We can't get pedicures or go get our hair done. Their dad's girlfriend gets to take them for mani/pedis. I'm happy for them, I'm glad she likes them and is kind to them. Every time it happens I have to force myself to breathe. If we go to a water park or a concert I have to sneak in extra work to cover it. Their dad and his girlfriend get to take them shopping for clothes and shoes....I get to stumble into Walmart at 11pm looking for orange folders and I get to pay registration fees and Chromebook charges. I know the Chromebook and school expenses are more important....but still. I would absolutely love to take them to get back to school pedicures but that's about $150.00 so it isn't going to happen.
I'm sure my ex has a long, very valid list of things that are easier for me than him. As I said, I wouldn't trade mine for his; I get their time. But I'm also the person who makes them brush their hair and their teeth and eat vegetables. I'm the one who makes them put their electronics away and takes their door off the hinges when they've been told not to slam it again. I make them go to bed when it's still light outside! Which is, apparently, the worst of my crimes.
They've been dying to color their hair. Olivia likes blue and Gracie likes pink. We tried dying their gorgeous brunette hair tips pink and blue once before but it wasn't very noticeable over the brown. So yesterday we went and bought pink and blue dye and a bleach kit. Best $15 I've spent in I don't know how long. I bleached their hair this morning and then tonight we colored it. The bleach was fun and they were really excited to be partially blonde. They did a lot of holding it up to mine and holding it up to their faces. Olivia thinks she'll probably go blonde in college, I'm delighted that in the midst of dying her hair blue while she is nine she assumes you can't go blonde until you no longer live at home. It turned out amazing. As an added bonus, their brabysitter (brother plus babysitter) woke up late and didn't realize I had bleached their hair. So his sisters let him believe they did it on his watch. He spent the entire day trying to figure out how to explain blonde hair to me. That might actually be the best part.....nah. The hair is fantastic!
When we were blow drying it Olivia said, "Mom, you do hair like a boss!" Which was about enough to get me through what will most certainly be a rough back to school morning tomorrow when her sister followed up with, "Mom does everything like a boss!" at which point she threw her arms around me. That will do it. I'll get through all of the rough back to school mornings this week on that 40 second exchange. They are so excited about their hair, it was adorable to watch. I have to say, it kind of made me want to dye mine blue. Maybe we should get through this first week before I do anything crazy!
Today, I'll take the win. I'm the boss of everything!