Monday, August 25, 2014

Feminism Is Not A Dirty Word. I Promise.

I have kids, I adore them, there are three of them.  In general they think I’m fairly cool. The 17 year old probably a little less than his 8 year old sisters, but I’m pretty sure he would still tell you I’m the funniest adult he knows in real life.  A large part of my identity is “mom,” I am incredibly proud of my kids and of myself as a parent.

I am a daughter.  My mom is no longer here and yet her daughter I remain.  

I am a woman.  I like a variety of things.  The list of things I like is long, here are some; books, movies, George Clooney, glitter, an apple pie that I've baked, Orange Is The New Black, my friends, my family, good food, incredibly tall and expensive high heels, corsets, anything black, aqua things, plants, bacon, creativity, small and dark dive bars, anything well written, beer, smut of any sort, General Hospital, Harrison Ford, music that makes me feel, historical romance novels, porn made for men, long bubble baths, make up, buttered popcorn with lots of salt, Game Of Thrones, John Oliver and sex. I’m pretty sure I would still like most of these things if I was a man maybe not General Hospital and George Clooney, who can say?

I make a little money planting things in gardens for nice people.  I hope I make the same amount I would make if I was a man.  

I am a writer and a storyteller.  Words are a huge part of who I am, they are how I navigate my position in the world, how I communicate, how I let people know how I am feeling.  I can’t be totally sure, of course, but I’m fairly certain I would still be a writer and a storyteller if I was a man.

Last night I was a MTV Video Award watcher, I know, I’m too old, I don’t care. Actually, I didn't think MTV showed videos anymore, who knew?  I love award shows. My favorite part of the night was this:

I know, it's like I just said a dirty word, like that would ever happen here. If you missed it, it was an amazing performance. She sang as a woman in love with her husband, as a woman wanting sex, as a mom lighting up at the giggle of her little girl, as a powerful woman, as a boss, as a full-on 100% committed feminist; you can watch it here

The definition of "feminism" according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary is;


 noun \ˈfe-mə-ˌni-zəm\
: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities
: organized activity in support of women's rights and interests

That's weird, it doesn't mean angry, crazy woman with PMS and lots of body hair? Strange. It sounds harmless. If Beyonce, Queen Bey, can be a feminist maybe we can too. Maybe your husband can be one, your son, your father, your daughter, your mother....maybe you.

I am a feminist, I believe in equal rights for men and women. And, you know what? I'm certain I'd still be a feminist if I were a man.


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